Hi pornies. I hope you are doing well. ^^ Although I've never been a very Christmas / Holidays / Whatever kind of guy, I won't deny these have been good days, much calmer, and I've felt better. I've also been reading, and there's a book I want to tell you about today: Cool Sex: An Essential Young Adult Guide to Loving, Mindful Sex, by Diana Richardson and Wendy Doeleman. Thanks to the publisher for sending me a review copy!
- Print Length: 128 pages.
- Publisher: O-Books (November 27, 2020).
- Publication Date: November 27, 2020.
- Genres: No-Fiction, Sexuality, Reference,
- Rating: 3,5 / 5 stars.
Sex is hot isn't it? Do you notice how sexually suggestive erotic images greet you at every corner? These 'steamy' images give a one-sided, unbalanced view of sex. For deeply satisfying sex the real secret is to reduce the heat, to cool down, and to be relaxed and mindful. Nature designed bodies for easy going loving sexual play that lasts for hours. Using the ancient eastern understandings of Tantra and body magnetism, higher experiences and blissful states are available. Cool Sex by Wendy Doeleman and Diana Richardson provides explanations, practical tips and easy to follow exercises. Discover the empowerment and fulfilment of sex with loving mindfulness.
This is a new edition of the original book by Doeleman, Coole seks, relaxte liefde, amplied and edited by Richardson, and it comes with new ideas for the most intimate moments humans can share. Why not just say hottest? Because that's when cool comes. This book is not about building up tension and release it in the form of an orgasm, but about going slower to reach an orgasmic state.
What I liked the most is that this book is also intended for young adults and teenagers. A 14 years old boy read it according to the first pages and found is very useful, and I'm very inclined to believe it because of how simple and straightforward the writing style is. You won't need any time at all to be done witht it once you start it, not to mention there are several interesting ideas about how sex doesn't always need to be hot, wild, and furious.
With a calmer approach that may not be as appealing at first sight, the authors talk about how different sex can be when done with a minimal touch, a point of view heavily inspired by tantric sex, which could create a more intimate, powerful, and inspiring experience for the couple. However, I had one major problem with it, and it is that the book is not inclusive enough. There are some mentions about the LGBT+ community, but almost all of the content is focused on straight couples. Queer people may find interesting and useful practices inside, but keep this in mind at all times.
That put aside, I think Diana Richardson and Wendy Doeleman created a really good book that introduces the reader to another and possibly healthier form of eroticism. Cool Sex: An Essential Young Adult Guide to Loving, Mindful Sex is also apt for teens of any age, making it a unique option when educating the young ones without making it an unconfortable situation; adults will find it just as useful, if you ask me.
About the authors:
Wendy Doeleman (1970) has a Social Science Degree (University of Utrecht) and worked for many years as a trainer and author in the field of welfare and childcare. Her interest in tantra began in 2005 and since then she has explored a variety of approaches, including participating in the “Making Love Retreat” with Diana and Michael Richardson. This ground-breaking retreat inspired Wendy to collaborate with Diana and write the book Coole seks, relaxte liefde for young adults, published in Dutch in 2010. She offers tantra workshops in the Netherlands, mainly for young people and is committed to sex education from a holistic and conscious point of view. Wendy is mother of three sons and lives in the Netherlands with her partner Remi. Website.
Diana Richardson is considered to be one of today’s leading authorities on human sexuality. She is the best-selling author of eight books on how in practical ways a person can experience a more fulfilling sex and love life. Born in South Africa in 1954, she first qualified as a lawyer (B.A.LLB) (University of Natal, Durban), and then she trained as a holistic massage therapist (ITEC) in the UK. Her interest in the body and healing prompted an intense personal exploration into the union of sex and meditation – the essence of neo-tantra – based on the teachings of Osho and Barry Long. Since 1993, together with her partner, Michael, she has been sharing her insights and experiences with couples who travel from many different parts of the world to participate in their informative and life-changing Making Love Retreats in Switzerland, where Diana and Michael are based. Website.
Have you read this book? Would you recommend it or not? Let me know in the comments! Kinky regards, K!
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