On the live-action Ursula controversy

A few days ago, I read that the makeup artist for the live-action The Little Mermaid responded to critics that said the makeup should have been done by a queer artist. Peter Smith King, the MUA in question, said he finds those critics ridiculous. I say I find him ridiculous.

You can read the full story in the link above, but in short several drag queen criticized the fact that it wasn't a queer artist who did Ursula's makeup for the live action, to which King said:

"I find that very offensive. (...) Why can't I do as good a job as a queer makeup artist? (...) That's ridiculous. That's trying to claim it and that's fine, if that's what they wanna do, but don't put people down because they're not what they want it to be"

I need to point to the fact that the critics are not towards his job. His job is great. Ursula looks good. He's a good artists. The critics are about the fact that there's no queer representation in a film that was influenced by drag queens: Ursula's look was inspired in the drag queen Divine.

I remember there being some comments about how great it would be if a drag queen portrayed her and the disappointment. However, Melissa McCarthy acknowledged Ursula's origins when asked about portraying the famous villain:

Melissa McCarthy on embodying Ursula in #TheLittleMermaid pic.twitter.com/U4agTfvTgo

— Deadline Hollywood (@DEADLINE) May 9, 2023

So, what's the issue here? Simple: the lack of representation, which also means a lack of respect. Divine influenced one of the most iconic movies in Disney's history, and they failed to respect that. What's even worse, King had the nerve to say he didn't draw on any inspirations:

I didn't really draw on anything. I played around quite a lot with different colors, different shapes, and stuff. (...) It just was sort of Melissa and I talking and creating. So I didn't really draw on anything at all.

Really? Let's see...

Yeah, well, I don't think so.

What do I have to say about this? Even if I've never been interested in drag queen, even if I haven't seen more than just a couple of episodes of Drag Race, I respect them for all the work and criticism they face, and I wished Disney did the same.

If not, King can acknowledge Divine in his work instead of taking the credit and robbing a queen of her legacy. He has 42 years of professional experience, and even worked on The Lord of the Rings, he doesn't need to steal from the queer community to prove he's a good artist.

He can be a good artist, but a questionable person if he fails to see the point.

And here's the point, for those who like it explicit: people can draw inspiration from whatever it is they want as long as they do it respectfully and acknowledge it. It doesn't make you less creative, less original, less important, or less relevant. It makes you more serious, professional, and socially responsible, even more if it's a marginalized, underrepresented community such as us queers. Disney has done it before, and things haven't improved.

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Discussing "Queer" as a word

I was reading an interesting post by Dr. Eric Cervini, author of The Deviant's War, about why we use "queer" nowadays as a synonym of LGBTQ+. After a captivating history lesson, there are some discussion questions we leaves for readers to discuss, and this being the safest space I have, I wanted to share with you my responses. You're also welcome to share your thoughts and experiences!

"I now use it like that and also as a collective term instead of the ever-growing LGBT+ for the sake of simplicity.". Source.

• What did the word “queer” mean when you were growing up? What does it mean to you now?

I didn't have that word while growing up. The first time I knew about it I was in college and it was being used to describe anyone who wasn't straight or cis but didn't want to label themselves in any of the most popular terms. However, I now use it like that and also as a collective term instead of the ever-growing LGBT+ for the sake of simplicity.

• What terms do you use to self-identify? Have these changed over time? If so, what was the cause of that change?

I first described myself "bisexual, semi-pansexual" because the initial definition of bisexual referred to attraction towards cisgender men and women only, and I found trans people also attractive. However, now that bisexual describes attraction to more than one, I just say I'm bi.

Also, reading about non-binary gender identities, I questioned myself as a man and using he/him pronouns. My idea was that, if men don't have to be cisgender, have a penis, have certain behaviors, then it didn't make sense to identify as a man. I tried to use they/them for a second, but that felt wrong. I didn't feel identified, even though I wouldn't feel bad if anyone used them with me.

• How do you feel when someone incorrectly identifies your gender or sexuality? What steps do you take to correct them?

If they do, I correct them once or twice, but if that doesn't work, then it depends on who's doing it. If I care about that person, then I insist and try to understand what makes it difficult for them. If it's just a matter of invalidating me in any sense, indifference, with no desire to change, I shut up and pay no attention. If they make an effort, I keep on explaining so we can reach a common ground so they understand what I'm talking about.

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Picking my Bibliomancy Books

Hello everyone. It’s been a minute, hasn’t it? I was thinking the other day about bibliomancy and how I could help others get more interested in this practice. One of things I realized is that I have a way to pick the books I use.

"When it comes to picking books, I think about the question I want to ask." Source.

It’s very simple: I read them first, and then decide if and how I could use them.

The reason is just as simple. Even though you can just use a magazine, I like to put in some effort in my practice, give it meaning and importance. It gives me a connection that helps me feel more connected to it.

When it comes to picking books, I think about the question I want to ask. The book must be related somehow to it, even if just a little. So far, I’ve been using three but, in the past, I had some different options that I could use now.

• The Picture of Dorian Gray: A queer, gothic classic that speaks about beauty, obsession, death, morality, love, art, passions, youth, immortality, and the human condition. I would even include mental health, identity, and friendship.
• The Complete Fairy Tales of the Brothers Grimm: This and the next one can both be used for queerness, mental health, adventure, innocence, childhood, religion, transformation, spiritual connection, and wonder. This one in particular is special for knowledge, evolution, and growth.
• The Original Folk and Fairy Tales of the Brothers Grimm: This and the previous one can both be used for queerness, mental health, adventure, innocence, childhood, religion, transformation, spiritual connection, and wonder. This one in particular is special for ancestral veneration, writing, and folklore.
• Edgar Allan Poe’s Complete Tales and Poems: I got it mostly because of the price, but Poe’s writing is amazing to explore shadow work, mental health, trauma, fear, shame, horror, nightmares, and memory. 
• Carmilla and other Vampire Tales: I had a book with several vampire tales, and they were all poetic. Carmilla is good for queerness, seduction, love, manipulation, shadow work, and protection. Vampires in general are also an option to explore sexuality, freedom, purity, and beauty.
• Frankenstein, or the Modern Prometheus: Although it’s not explicitly queer, there are some parts that make me think of Victor and his creation as queer-coded characters, so I can use it for internalized homophobia, along with obsession, mental health, identity, trauma, death, intellectual matters, growth, and study.
• Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde: Another one that could be considered queer-coded even if the author didn’t intend it. It speaks about madness, mental health, trauma, shadow work, personality, self-esteem, knowledge, purity, and evolution or devolution, depending on how you look at it.

I only need to also say that The Picture of Dorian Gray is my favorite, so I use it on a more regular basis to get general advise, even if the questions are not related to the content of the story.

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Manga: Platinum Blood

Sex and vampires go hand in hand. Add kink to make it even better. Add a taboo relationship, and theological questions, and I'm in. I read Platinum Blood, by Mor Ichigaya, in one sitting, and I'm craving for more because of how good it was! Thanks to the publisher for sending me a review copy!

• Print Length: 226 pages
• Publisher: TokyoPop
• Publication Date: April 15, 2023
• Genres: Drama, Fantasy, Gay, Homoerotic, Romantic, Yaoi
• Rating: 4 / 5 stars

The vampire Alucard — nicknamed Al — was brought up in a church, at the side of the kindly priest Kaname. Now all grown up and drop-dead handsome, Al has certain needs...

The dutiful Kaname generously allows the vampire to drink of his body — and it isn't just his blood that Al's sucking! Still, physical needs aren't the same as emotional desires, and Al finds himself stuck trying to get the oblivious, straight-laced Kaname to realize that he means more than an easy meal to him.

This book contains explicit content and mature themes, including (highlight to read) explicit sex, religious kink, age gap, dubious consent, and adoptive incest. It is not intended for anyone under 18 years of age.

I enjoyed this manga so much I want more! It is not fair that there's only one volume because the style and the art were both on point. I got trapped in the story from the beginning, loving it more as I progressed. Both Al and Kaname are beautiful characters I didn't get tired of at any point. I liked them for how imperfect they are and how organic that chemistry was.

The art was just as good, showing more than just what was happening. It included feelings, thoughts, the whole atmosphere of experiences that was going on in this story. The lines are so clean it felt the characters were alive, allowing you to get immersed in the pages with ease. Seriously, it felt so real I lost track of reality more than once!

Now, what I said at the beginning was a bittersweet thing to say, because there's more room for development, first of all regarding Al's origin and name. There's nothing in this volume to suggest that's his full name, although common knowledge plays a big part in here. However, I'm curious about the author's ideas, how this relationship developed, along with Kaname's theological insecurities. There's too much left to be said!

Platinum Blood is a great, beautiful story impossible not to love, not only because the superficial "who doesn't love queer, sexual vampires?" reasoning, but also because it offers a deeper, more interesting insight into humanity, love, life, and morality. There's sex, for sure, but there's also a story that could be turned into something longer, more enjoyable, more interesting, and more fascinating. Promising, to say the least.

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The Cat and the Mouse (and the Church)

I just read* the second story in the Brothers Grimm's books, and I cannot help but feel it is still so current because of its message: Churches are not always safe.

Places of Peace?

For those wondering I say it's very current, there's a a very good reason for it: Churches are not safe, not anymore, not in many places. For the sake of simplicity, I'll take the United States as an example, where the numbers of sexual assaults by members of the church are worth worrying for.

Just to give an example of this, Méténier (2020) wrote that: 

In 2004, an independent study by the John Jay College of Criminal Justice (New York) put the number of priests accused of abusing minors between 1950 and 2002 at 4,400, i.e. 4% of the 110,000 priests serving during that period. 11,000 people are reported to have been victims of this abuse, of whom 67% were aged between 11 and 17 at the time.

In Pennsylvania, a Grand Jury, formed in January 2018 of 23 American citizens under the jurisdiction of a prosecutor, found in August 2019 that sexual abuse had been perpetrated by more than 300 priests on 1,000 children and covered up by the Church. Priest David Poulson, 65, was sentenced to prison after pleading guilty to sexual assault and attempted assault on two boys aged 8 and 15.

Also, some members of the church have a questionable order of priorities. According to Gun Violence Archive, just in Texas this year there have been 44 shootings, But there's one event that got me thinking: There were shootings on May 29, May 31, June 2, June 4, ergo four shootings in just one week, with 13 injured and six dead. However, right after a bar hosted a family friendly drag queen show on June 4,  which many protested against, a Republican former pastor and current Texas Representative, Bryan Slaton, 'said a law was necessary to protect children from "perverted adults"' on June 6.

Churches are supposed to be places of peace, of meditation, of worship, but a lot of religious people blame the victim, and some feel the can even joke about assaulting a child. What does it mean in a larger scale? That Christianity is declining in the US, and seems like things are unlikely to change. This is just one religion in one country, and there are 195 countries total. Think about the numbers all this would imply.

Religion is not the Problem, Though

For me, this story is a clear metaphor about members of the church, and religious people in general, with talent for words and sympathy, preaching (conditional) love and (selective) salvation, who are actually hiding too many skeletons in the closet. while it's not a tale about a practice, it does lend itself to some theory and discussion.

What do we expect from religion? What about religious places, which are supposed to be sacred? What kind of things happen in there? Are they as sacred as the place is supposed to be? These are all questions to keep in mind when thinking and speaking (or writing, as in this case) about religion and religious people.

"What do we expect from religion? What about religious places, which are supposed to be sacred? What kind of things happen in there? Are they as sacred as the place is supposed to be?". Image by Alexa from Pixabay.

A lot of people say that they don't believe in religion, and the last stats I shared about Christianity show that many are now identifying as non-religious. The thing is, religion is not the problem, but the followers. It's true that many religions have been used as social tools by the state to keep power just for a selected few and control the mass, and the mass would believe every. single. word. But now things are different, we can prove other people wrong, we can have our own point of view. People are the problem, because Texans can't blame Christianity for a law against drag shows instead of one regarding regulations, they can't blame Christianity for people being abused at churches, but they can blame Christian who seem to forget the "love thy neighbor as thyself".

More than a Spell (but also a Spell)

Instead of a spell, an incantation, a ritual regarding this, I think it's much more powerful to start conversation about this topic. But since not many will agree with this, I though, what about the symbolism of the mouse? In this story, the mouse is the working class, those with seemingly no power, the ones who stay at home and take care of it and the family. Common folk. We are all common folk. We are all mouses, the ones deprived of power by those special few I mentioned before, the cats.

Keeping with this analogy, what if all mouses took a stand against those few cats? Mice can reproduce with ease, their number increasing rapidly, making them symbols of fertility. Cats have been symbols of magic and mystery, which we are deprived by since we don't have the same knowledge or access to information as them. Why not take it back to ourselves and remind the cats we are the ones who keep them in that position?

And so I wrote a thing. Maybe consider incorporating catnip, which has been used as a sedative, ergo, to put someone to sleep.

A Mouse's Revenge Incantation

Sacred hymns you defile with your face,

Sacred vows, too much honor for your names.

You took power without asking, without thinking,

You took it all, swallow down, made us listen.

Look at us with cat-like eyes, playing with your prey,

Mouses between your paws, feeding your greed and reign.

We're the ones who keep you up, who sing your praise,

But we're also the ones who can burn your place.

We're the ones who clean your debris,

We're the ones who build your seat,

Paint your picture, harvest your tea,

Yet it's only us you claim that sin.

You're the ones who damn us all,

You're the ones who make us fall,

You're the sickness in this place,

You're the vermins with an ugly face.

Go to sleep, fatty cats, drink your tea, and go to sleep,

Go to bed, take a rest, and hope you have sweet dreams.

We made you a bed your size and shape,

A pretty gravestone with your face and name.

*I originally wrote this for my Patreon, but since I'm focusing on the blog now, I wanted to share an updated version here.

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Finding a Voice

Last night I attended A Conversation and Book Event with Zachary Zane organized by StillBisexual. As I learned about a promising book, I also learned something: Zack has a defined voice, a defined style, which made me realize that I may not have one. Not one I want for the kind of content I want to write. And so I wondered: What do I want to write about?

The answer came right away: I want to write about bisexuality. However, there might be a lot of bisexual writers out there. What can I do that helps the collective? How can I be helpful? Because it's not a matter of doing something original, is doing what you do the best.

Thinking about it, I connected with something I've wanted to do for a while. I realized on 2022 that I wasn't enjoying any of the queer/gay spiritual books I was reading. I couldn't connect with any of them, find joy ne reading them, and ended up frustrated with them all, no matter the author or the approach. I realized I was becoming a hater.

Why? Because I was looking for my voice in them. I was trying to find something in a way only I could say. Not because I'm better than those authors, but because there's a certain content that I enjoy reading and writing, but haven't found in queer spirituality: a balanced blend between academic research and personal experiences that about about bisexuality.

I was reading books by gay and nonbinary authors, wishing I could find something they couldn't write about because they had a different background, a different style, different identities. As I listened to Zack speak about his book and his experiences, how he made jokes about it and sounded so free, I realized this was the reason why I wasn't enjoying anything: because I didn't have a voice.

So I decided to change that. I've lamented to one of my friends, over and over, that there is no representation, that there's no content, no spirituality that I felt fitted my needs. He told me to just write about it, which is why I started this section in the blog. I struggled with those books because I didn't see myself in them, and so I couldn't appreciate the work of those authors. So I want to make things right.

I've read a few books from this list, tried to read others, some I started, liked, but abandoned for several reasons, and I just forgot about some others because of this initial disillusion. So I want to go back to them, and while I will read them randomly, it will be under this different point of view, not expecting something specific and keeping a more open mind. Here's the list in case you want to read them as well:

• Gay Witchcraft: Empowering the Tribe, by Christopher Penczak
• Sons of the Goddess: A Young Man's Guide to Wicca, by Christopher Penczak
• Wicca Spellcraft for Men: A Spellbook for Male Pagans, by A.J. Drew
• The Satyr's Kiss: Queer Men, Sex Magic & Modern Witchcraft, by Storm Faerywolf
• Garbed In Green: Gay Witchcraft & The Male Mysteries, by Casey Giovinco
• Queering Your Craft: Witchcraft from the Margins, by Cassandra Snow
• Queer Magic: LGBT+ Spirituality and Culture from Around the World, by Tomás Prower
• The Path Of The Green Man: Gay Men, Wicca and Living a Magical Life, by Michael Thomas Ford

Has this happened to you? I've had several conflicting feelings because of this, so I'm looking forward to trying again some of these readings. Also, if there are more books you would recommend, let me know and I'll add them here as well! Extra interested if they're about bisexual spirituality!

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Manga: Iberico Pork & Love & Camellia

I recently read a manga that surprised me for how different it is, the topics it includes, and the amazing art that I got used to in no time. I didn't know what to expect, and I honestly thought I wouldn't like it that much due to the description, but I still decided to give Iberico Pork & Love & Camellia, by Shoowa, a try, and I'm so happy I did! Thanks to the publisher for sending me a review copy!

• Print Length: 180 pages.
• Publisher: TokyoPop.
• Publication Date: February 22, 2023.
• Genres: Drama, Gay, Homoerotic, Romantic, Yaoi.
• Rating: 4 / 5 stars.

Sparks fly when high school delinquent Tsubaki antagonizes the leader of a local trash pick-up gang, the Iberico Pigs... except instead of going on one of his famous rampages, Iberico invites Tsubaki out to dinner instead. As the two of them spend more time together, will their relationship be nipped in the bud by Tsubaki's uncertainty, the Pigs' jealousy, or Iberico's family ties to organized crime? Meanwhile, a members of Iberico's crew hides a painful past — can he find it in himself to open up his heart to another?

In a comedic, tender, awkward, and sometimes deadly serious tale of high school trash pick-up gangs, environmental conscientiousness, and real-life mobsters, Iberico & Love & Camellia follows the mutual support and growing heartfelt feelings between rough-and-tumble young men.

This book is intended for mature audiences aged 18 and over.

Content warnings: (highlight to read) explicit sex; violence; homophobia; stalking, grooming & sexual abuse of a teenager by an adult; rape (and videotaping of the assault); drug distribution and forced drugging.

I liked how different this manga was! It took different, risky ideas, and put them together in a way that was easy to enjoy them. However, as you may expect, it is not something easy, and there elements that may be horrific for some because of how detailed they are. The same happens with the happy, cute, romantic elements.

Basically, we're talking about a manga that presents two different stories that are related to one another. They are not sequels or prequels, or anything similar, but are definitely connected, provide a wider view of what it is like to be part of this gang. The trash and environment elements are not as important as you might expect, but more like a complementary part of the story.

I would have liked it to be more extensive, maybe a duology, since both stories could have had a better development even though it works the way it is right now. However, I feel a few scenes were rushed and didn't have the impact they could have had with the right amount of space. I want to give it the benefit of doubt since there's another volume coming next Monday, so just a few more days!

All in all, Iberico Pork & Love & Camellia is a nice story that shows the raw reality of some people without romanticizing it, but also shows that there's a light at the end of the tunnel. With beautiful art that reflects the same feelings the script works with, and the promise of more to come, it's a manga perfect for fans of reality, healing, and love.

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The Frog King, or Iron Henry + Incantation

The Frog King, or Iron Henry has been one of my favorite stories since I read it. I was devouring the Grimms' Fairytales*, noticed a lot of them were queer, mostly gay, and decided to go back to pay more attention.

For me, The Frog King is a tale that speaks about innocence and the lack of it. Both the titular character and the Princess that we meet are selfish, banal, superficial, and manipulative. The tone is set at the beginning of the final edition of the tale, because the story is set "in olden times, when wishing still helped".

The Princess's golden ball that she loves so much, even the well, where there's the frog, are all references to wishing, and this Princess is supposed to be the youngest and, therefore, the most innocent. That line (from the new edition) makes it obvious that wishes play a central role in the story.

However, neither of the first two characters are innocent. We don't know why the King was cursed by the witch, we don't know why the Princess finds frogs so disgusting, but we do know that, even though she mistreated him so much and insulted him, the King still said he would marry her, and she was marveled when she found out he was a handsome man, deciding to be gentle. Superficial enough?

The are perfect for each other, if you ask me, but there's a character that doesn't get much attention: Henry, the faithful servant of the King, who comes to take him back to the kingdom when the spell is broken. He loved his master so much he had to ask for three bands of iron to be made so his heart wouldn't break. Ergo, he was about to die.

"Iron Henry could be someone to ask for help when there's a one-sided love, even more if a queer person falls in love with a straight one". Image by Jill Wellington from Pixabay.

This is either obsession of love, maybe a combination of both, but I'm inclined to believe it's mostly the later because he does not demand the King to love him back. He's content with his master marrying a selfish girl just as empty as he is (one is left to wonder why Henry would love someone like that, but we'll go with the flow).

The King wished to marry someone, the Princess wished to have nothing to do with the frog but everything with the handsome man, and Henry wished for his master to be free of the spell. Also, I find it interesting that his dialogue is a bit different when both editions are compared:

Original Edition

"No, my lord, it's really nothing

but the band around my heart,

which nearly came apart

when you turned into a frog and your fortune fell

and you were made to live in that dreadful well."

Seventh Edition

"No, my lord, it's really nothing

but the band around my heart,

for it nearly fell apart

when the witch did cast her spell

and made you live as a frog in a well."

In the original version, Henry gives more importance to the fact that he was a frog in a well, that his "fortune fell", while in the other he does mention the witch and the spell, and only speaks of those elements in a shorter sentence. He was actually more worried about his master's wellbeing, while the reason for it, which is the spell in this case, was inconsequential. It's not the fact he was "turned into a frog", but that his "fortune fell".

In the end, everyone got what they wished for, regardless of whether they were noble or not, and I think it's obvious I'm not speaking about royalty here. Both royals and the servant got what they wanted the most, no matter their values and sense of self. It could be a perfect example of "be careful what you wish for", because we all know that a marriage between two people such as the King and the Princess is not meant to last.

With this in mind, Iron Henry could be someone to ask for help when there's a one-sided love, even more if a queer person falls in love with a straight one. 

Calling for Iron Henry's Help

Faithful Servant, Iron Henry,

Heal this heartbreak, stop this aching.

This I ask and this I wish,

Three Iron bands I need for me.

I initially said that "there's obviously no hope for the feeling to be mutual", but you never know. Now that I think about it, some people are more fluid about their sexuality and preference as Diamond (2016, p. 6) explains:

Sexual orientation is not a static and categorical trait (...) it can be observed in the high numbers of sexual minority men and women who show changes in their pattern of attractions over time, well into adulthood; it can be observed in the high numbers of men and women who flexibly engage in patterns of sexual behavior that do not concord with their self-described identity or attractions.

I've heard several stories about people who try being with someone of the same gender and discover they're just as attracted to that person as to someone of the opposite sex. In this sense, asking for Henry's help means acknowledging that this person may or may not return your feeling, may or may not give an opportunity (or another one after a failed attempt), but that you deserve healing and happiness in your life no matter what they decide. It's also accepting them as they are without compromising your own self.

As a side note, I find it interesting that the Grimms specified, in the seventh edition, that the well was "beneath an old linden tree", because of the symbolism it has (Alina-Maria et al, 2015, pp: 238-242):

In China, the linden tree is named the tree of forgetfulness (...) According to the greek legends, the linden tree, was a symbol of marital love and of the perfect wife, of simplicity, innocence and kindness. (...) Became in the Greek mythology the sacred tree of Aphrodite. (...) In the Hellenic period of Egypt, the masks ofthe sarcophagus of Fayoum were made of linden wood. (...) Herodot mentiones the Scythian soothsayers using the leaf of the linden tree in order to obtain inspiration and to guess the future. (...) In the mythology of Ancient Rome, the linden tree was a symbol of marital love and fidelity in the couple. (...) Was a symbol of friendship and fidelity. Under the crown of the linden tree the sick people hoped to obtain healing, this tree was both a masculine and a feminine symbol. (...) In the Romanian imaginary the linden trees are a constant presence as they are in the traditions connected to religious celebrations.

Could it be possible that such a magical plant would have transformed the heart of the King? Maybe. There's also the matter of the eight white horses Henry comes with, a number that has been associated with the infinity symbol, while white can also signifies purity and death depending on who you ask. Given the context, Henry could also be a traveler between the worlds, and an incorruptible spirit, a ray light that may or may not heal/help this new marriage.

Some things to think about, right?

*I originally wrote this for my Patreon, but since I'm focusing on the blog now, I wanted to share an updated version here.

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